How To Really Get Your Date’s Attention When Engaging Her In A Conversation
So I was checking out a few books at the local library and came across a piece that was written by a so-called “modern relationship expert.” He claimed that if you’re looking to really get a woman’s attention during a first date, the best way to do it is by making her feel that you are the alpha male.
Apart from talking in a brash manner to give her the idea that you are extremely confident, this “expert” also recommends that you display aggressive gestures to convince her that you can protect her no matter what happens.
But let’s do a bit of role play for a sec. Put yourself in your date’s shoes. How would you feel when you realize that the guy you’re going out with is a complete jerk? It isn’t that tricky to figure out that your date won’t go as you’d like it to.
Winning a woman over during a date isn’t something that is instantaneous just like what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying these days. It’s actually a process that involves taking care of key factors to pull the whole thing off.
Now while the first thing that may come to mind is keeping a close eye on your grooming, most guys seem to overlook a very important factor that can easily make or break your chances at really wowing a woman when you take her out.
And this factor is engaging her in a meaningful conversation.
I know this sounds a bit surprising right now, but not being able to start a meaningful conversation with your date has a very negative effect on her almost immediately. It basically makes her bored, which becomes more and more intense with every passing minute.
And when her boredom reaches a certain level, stress hormones start to get in the picture. Besides making your date feel really impatient, she will also experience an unexpected surge in her anxiety levels, which will just lead to disaster sooner than you think.
But the thing is how do you really engage a woman in a meaningful conversation on a date?
Now while there is no surefire tip when it comes to achieving this, I learned something during my extensive research into the female psychology that may just help you encourage her to exchange meaningful ideas while you’re on a date.
See, women are more receptive to conversations when you draw out good memories from them. And you can easily do this by asking her a very trivial question like the name of her first pet or perhaps the cartoon show that she never misses to watch on TV.
You can play this however you want. As long as you’re only tackling simple stuff, you’re on the right track. Sure the idea of telling her about the really technical program that you work with at the office may be quite impressive in your viewpoint, but it’s really the opposite for her. (Make sure that you listen intently while you’re doing this, too!)
This stimulates her brain into churning out positive hormones in the body, which make her feel more sociable, happier and more relaxed. And the more of these hormones are circulating in her, the easier it will be for you to get and keep her talking.
Come to think of it. Besides making her feel more comfortable around you, you will also catch a few important things that you can use to dazzle her even more as you go along. Now how’s that for two for two?