The Reason Why You Are In The Friend Zone
Let’s kick things off with the painful truth…
You are in the friend zone because you’ve put yourself there. It isn’t her fault because she might not have the slightest idea that you are looking to build a romantic relationship with her. And what’s really surprising is a lot of guys tend to overlook this.
However, there are simple ways that you can use to break free from the friend zone. Unlike what most so-called “dating gurus” and “pickup artists” are saying, though, it’s not about wearing loud clothes or acting like the alpha male to get her utmost attention.
Believe me, you’ll just embarrass yourself while at it.
Let’s say you’re friends with a woman who you really want to establish a relationship with… And no, not just the typical chummy variety but instead on a more romantic level. The only problem is that she only sees you as her best friend and nothing more.
How do you turn this situation around?
Here are the things that you should start doing…
Make sure your intentions hit their mark. Most guys tend to get stuck in the friend zone because they treat the woman they like the wrong way. If you’re looking to make her your girlfriend at some point, then it’s important that you stop treating her like a guy friend or someone like a sister.
While there is the risk that your friendship won’t be the same after you make the necessary changes, it’s still a better option than her never understanding how you truly feel.
This is also your cue to ask her for a more serious date that will make her rethink your friendship. Since you already know the things she likes, making your date as successful as possible will be a piece of cake. (Make sure you keep this pointer in mind to give her an amazing first date, too.)
Touch her like a potential boyfriend and not just a friend. Breaking the touch barrier is an effective way to gauge how much she is into you. Try holding her hand while the both of you take a stroll or stroking her hair while you engage her in a conversation. If she doesn’t like it she’ll just tell you to stop, but if she doesn’t mind it at all…well, that just means you’re on the right track.
Don’t skimp on the flirting to really drive the message home. Unlike what most romantic comedies tell us, women don’t just fall in love with guys at the drop of a hat. In the real world, they need to know that you want to become more than just a friend. The best way to do that is flirting with her more openly and frequently.
Just to emphasize, sharing a joke or holding a regular conversation is far from flirting. If you’re not sure where to begin you can kick things off by putting in romantic or sexual themes into your conversation and holding her gaze longer than you would with a friend.