How To Really Get Your Date To Open Up To You

How To Really Get Your Date To Open Up To You

Getting a meaningful conversation going should definitely be one of your top priorities when you’re on a first date with a woman. It doesn’t just help you know your date better, but also pick up a few things that you can use to dazzle her as you go along.

But the thing is unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are recommending, encouraging the woman you’re out with on a first date to open up to you isn’t about saying particular words or phrases – also known as “pickup lines” – to supposedly activate her mind to start exchanging ideas with you.

What’s really interesting is I came across a trick during my extensive research into the female psychology that may just help make it easier for you to get and maintain a meaningful conversation with a woman during your first date.

Let me explain what I mean…

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are you’ve got a pickup line (or two) up your sleeve. It’s basically meant to be an ice breaker in social situations, particularly when you’re looking to start a conversation with a woman you’re on a date with or perhaps building a romantic connection with.

Although most of these pickup lines can be rather corny or funny, I discovered during my research into the female psychology that most women tend to consider them as pathetic. This is because they have the mindset that whoever is dishing them out is desperate and unoriginal.

Besides making them feel awkward and uncomfortable, their anxiety levels are also going to rise when they realize that you’ve just shot one off. And that’s even if you’ve delivered the wittiest pickup line from your arsenal, too.

(They also feel the same thing when you’re looking at your watch every few minutes.)

Now we’ve got that covered, here’s the trick that I was telling you about earlier…

The next time you’re trying to open a conversation with a woman you’re going out for the first time, ask her the most trivial open-ended question that you can ever think of or one that can’t be answered with just a yes or no.

I know this sounds quite simplistic right now, but doing so gives the woman you’re trying to engage in a conversation with the idea that you’re sincere, original and really into her. This promotes the release of positive hormones in her body that make her more relaxed, comfortable and sociable.

Picking your opener isn’t that tricky as well.

You can ask your date what her favorite cartoon character is or perhaps the name of the game she always plays on her smartphone these days. You’ll be surprised how much eager she’ll exchange ideas with you.


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