This Dating No-No Will Prevent Her From Going Out With You Again

This Dating No-No Will Prevent Her From Going Out With You Again

I came across a message from Devon while browsing my inbox this morning and he asks if there are innocent gestures that can be a turn off among women when you go out with them on a first date.

Now while I’ve pointed out in a previous post that glancing nonchalantly at your watch or mobile phone while your first date is in gear gives a woman the notion that you find her boring, there’s one other gesture that I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that you should keep clear of.

There’s even a chance that you’re unknowingly doing this when you go out on a date with a woman for the first time. Let me explain what I mean…

See, unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying, acing a first date is primarily about promoting a surge of positive hormones like dopamine and oxytocin in a woman’s body, which basically set off feelings of comfort and relaxation when they get released.

You don’t pull it off by wearing loud clothes to get her complete attention or perhaps asserting your status as an alpha male by acting brash and extra assertive. Put yourself in your date’s shoes for a moment. Would you go on another date with an obnoxious guy who has a terrible fashion taste?

Well, there’s your answer.

The strategy is to make her body churn out as much of these hormones as it can so she will start to associate these nice feelings when she’s around you. Once your date has this mindset, convincing her to go out with you again won’t be that tricky.

Now for the not-so-innocent gesture I was telling you about earlier…

I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that women translate the drumming of fingers as a sign of impatience. Sure you may just be tapping along to the music or perhaps remembering a drum beat you like, but you’re basically giving your date the notion that you can’t wait to be someplace else.

One simple way of correcting this is to put both of your hands on the table or a place that they’re easily visible, and clasp them together. This is a gesture that means you’re really eager to know more about her and you won’t mind how long it takes, too.

If you were a woman, wouldn’t you think that’s a gesture that easily earns some brownie points for the guy you’re on a first date with?


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