Here's A Mistake A Lot Of Men Make When Trying To Break The Ice On A First Date

Here’s A Mistake A Lot Of Men Make When Trying To Break The Ice On A First Date

Getting a meaningful conversation going is definitely one of the key items in your checklist when you’re taking out a woman on a first date. Besides helping you establish rapport to make your date feel more comfortable around you, it also plays a key role in getting to know her better as you go along.

However, there is a mistake that a lot of guys tend to make when it comes to breaking the ice with a woman on a first date. And there’s a big possibility that you’re guilty of doing this as well, which can easily ruin your chances of making your date open up to you.

Let me explain what I mean…

Unlike what so-called “pickup artists” are saying these days, getting a woman in a conversational mood during a first date definitely isn’t about acting and talking like the “alpha male.”

Now while showing initiative and leadership when you go out with a woman the first time is a smart idea to give her the notion that you’re in control of your date and she’s totally safe with you, overdoing the whole thing will just lead to the opposite sooner than you think.

And you’ll have a very tricky time convincing her to get a meaningful conversation going when this happens.

What’s really interesting is I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that women basically agree to go on first dates to expand their social network and have fun. If you give your date an awesome time during Date #1, chances are convincing her to go out with you again in the future won’t be that difficult.

Now here’s the mistake a lot of men tend to overlook when they are trying to break the ice during a first date…

Many guys are inclined to be too formal when starting a conversation with their dates. Although asking trivial questions is essential in terms of encouraging a woman to open up to you, making her feel that she’s in a job interview instead of a first date easily promotes a rush of negative hormones in her body.

Besides making her feel impatient and uncomfortable, these hormones also raise her anxiety levels in the process, which easily ruins her mood to exchange ideas with you even if you’re already bringing your conversational A-game into play.

A better strategy to encourage your date to talk would be opening up with a joke (make sure it’s not dirty or offensive though) or perhaps share a funny experience that you had. As long as you make a woman feel that she can let her guard down during your first date, you’re on the right track.


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