Why Your Girlfriend Isn't That Excited To Go Down On You

Why Your Girlfriend Isn’t That Excited To Go Down On You

I came across a very interesting question while browsing my inbox this morning and I’d like to share it with you. Donnie, a long-time AdviceForHim.com reader asks why his girlfriend isn’t that excited to give him a blowjob anymore.

Now while BJ’s used to be a regular item on his girlfriend’s sexual checklist when things got hot in the bedroom, Donnie notices that she seems to deliberately do away with the whole thing when they are at it these days.

What I really found interesting with Donnie’s message is he also shares that he’s just recently switched to a new perfume. And I think I’ve found the best possible reason why our guy isn’t getting the oral attention that he wants during lovemaking.

Let me explain what I mean…

See, unlike men that can get ready for action in bed at the drop of a hat, there are a few key factors that women need to really get going sexually. And during my extensive research into the female sexuality, I’ve learned that comfort is one of the most important of these factors.

The more comfortable a woman is when you’re trying to fire her up in bed, the higher your chances will be that she will become sexually aroused. This is because her endocrine glands won’t find it tricky to churn out positive hormones like oxytocin and dopamine, which are needed by the body to prep up for lovemaking.

However, something else happens when a woman has the feeling that she’s out of her comfort zone when things get hot in bed. Instead of producing and releasing positive hormones, her endocrine glands will send out their negative counterparts.

Unlike positive hormones that make a woman feel sexually aroused, negative hormones will only set off feelings of impatience and anxiety. She will also have the notion that she’s being pressured into doing things that she doesn’t like.

(And just to make things worse, excessive levels of these negative hormones will also prevent her from really enjoying sex and reaching the Big O in the process.)

In short, she won’t be that eager to get in action during sex even if you’re already bringing your A-game while at it. And this can also significantly affect her enthusiasm to explore south of your border.

Now while I am not saying that trying new things is definitely a no-no, talking it over with your girlfriend first is a priority – unless you’re intentionally aiming to disrupt her eagerness in the bedroom.


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