How To REALLY Stimulate Her Clitoris

How To REALLY Stimulate Her Clitoris

I was checking out my emails this morning when I came across a very interesting question…

Dennis asks why his girlfriend seems to have no interest in oral sex anymore. He shares that she used to enjoy it a lot when he went down on her, especially when he stimulated her clitoris as soon as he gets the chance.

I knew what the problem was right then and there. Let me explain what I mean…

Unlike what a lot of men mistakenly think, the clitoris isn’t an erogenous zone that instantly gives a woman sexual pleasure as soon as you stimulate it in any way. Contrary to popular belief, you won’t give your lover a mind-blowing orgasm the moment you lick, kiss or caress her clitoris when things get hot in the bedroom.

And as it turns out, immediately focusing on your partner’s clitoris during foreplay can even be quite uncomfortable to the point of being painful for her.

During my extensive research into the female sexuality, I discovered that the clitoris needs to be given time to get ready before it should be stimulated. Doing so before it’s completely prepped up for action won’t just feel awkward and annoying for your lover, but can make her feel sore down there as well.

So when is really the best time to stimulate your lover’s clitoris, you ask? Well, before I explain this more in detail, let me give you a quick rundown on what happens inside her body during sexual arousal…

As soon as a woman’s brain detects that things are getting hot in bed, it fires up her endocrine glands to let loose certain mood-altering hormones that trigger key changes in her body. Besides spiking up her heart and breathing rate, these hormones also increase the flow of blood in her system.

This rise in blood flow not only makes her skin more sensitive to the touch, especially in and around the genitals, but also activates erogenous zones that need an extra dose of blood to start sending pleasure signals to the brain like the nipples and clitoris.

Interestingly, the clitoris and nipples normally swell up a bit and become rather firm when this happens. And this is also the sign that they’re ready to be stimulated. (Here are a few tips to give her more pleasure when you stimulate her breasts while we’re at it, too.)

Keep in mind that the next time you and your lover are getting at it, make sure you don’t go straight to her clitoris. Give it time to get ready for action. There’s no need to worry if you’re still quite unsure when to stimulate it since she’ll likely tell you herself or guide you to it when the time comes.


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