So You're Having A First Date Soon...

So You’re Having A First Date Soon…

August 26, 2014  |  Dating Advice, Success Principles

I learned a very interesting thing while having a few beers with my old college buddy, Debbie, over the weekend and I’d like to share it with you. And I’m sure this will come in really handy if you’re having a first date anytime soon.

As it turns out, staying too silent during a first date can easily ruin your chances of acing the whole thing. I know this sounds a bit crazy right now, but you’ll definitely find out more when you follow along…

Debbie shares that unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly think, staying too silent during a first date doesn’t make them mysterious. She says that this simply makes women feel creeped out instead, which isn’t the emotion you’d like to give your date if you’re looking to score brownie points with her and be able to take her out a second time.

She explains this is because a first date is basically an opportunity to introduce yourself to a woman that you like. And introducing yourself significantly involves breaking the ice and getting a meaningful conversation going.

Debbie emphasizes that doing so gives you the opportunity to know the things that you have in common with the woman you’re out with, which can help you establish a personal connection with her. She even says that she’s quite disappointed with what several so-called “dating gurus” teach.

A first date is supposed to be the time when you try to become friends with the woman you’re going out with so it won’t be that tricky to convince her to have a second date with you soon. Besides making her feel more comfortable around you, a first date is also about showing a woman the real you and not some alter ego you’ve supposedly built just to boost your chances of impressing her while at it.

And it’s absolutely not the time to put on a few moves in the hopes of magically luring her to jump in bed with you as well, which will only make you look ridiculous to your date. Debbie even adds that the techniques a lot of self-proclaimed dating gurus have are quite silly.

I know keeping clear from being too silent during a first date may sound rather simplistic, but it actually makes a lot of sense if you think about it. And it’s still inside information, too. So how about trying this tip the next time you’re on a first date?


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