Why You’re Not Successfully Moving On After A Bad Breakup
Breakups happen. They’re a part of life. Unfortunately it never really feels that simple when it happens to you. So if you’re having a tough time moving on after a failed relationship, even after you’ve tried really hard to make things work again, here are the things you need to take note of…
Don’t be afraid to acknowledge your emotions.
If you’re anything like most men, you’ve probably tried bottling up your emotions since many of us guys have been brought up to think that showing them out in the open isn’t a manly thing to do. The thing is, toughing it out after a breakup is perhaps the biggest mistake you’ll ever make.
Accepting that you’ve been hurt should be the very first thing on your checklist after you’ve broken up with your girlfriend. Feeling hurt and showing it is completely natural. Apart from helping you ease the pain of losing her, you’re also making it easier for yourself to move on eventually.
Assess what really went wrong.
Have you ever thought about assessing your role as the other half of the relationship? Chances are that you screwed up somehow along the way and that’s why you and your girlfriend broke up. Knowing what finally pushed her to leave you is a priority to avoid making the same mistake in your future romantic relationships.
Evaluating how you were as her ex-boyfriend gives you an idea of what attributes to keep and those that you need to get rid of. You’ll only end up in more broken relationships in the near future if you don’t take the time to do this. (Did you know that being boring can make your girlfriend leave you?)
Consider the breakup as a lesson.
A lot of guys tend to get stuck in the wake of a bad breakup because they mistakenly think that losing their girlfriends is a sign that they are a bad person. Always keep in mind that breakups happen even to the best of us. If you’ve recently broken up with your sweetheart and couldn’t win her back no matter how hard you tried, think of it as a lesson to make your next romantic relationship even better.