Why You're Not Getting a Second Date

Why You’re Not Getting a Second Date

March 8, 2013  |  Dating Advice

If you are having a tough time getting the girl of your dreams out for another date, it’s not because you’re not attractive enough, rich enough, tall enough or any of those things… You just have to learn how to maximize your persuasion skills.

See, most guys just know how to ask a girl for a second date. However, they don’t know how to persuade her into it. Let me explain what I mean…

Unlike what most people believe, persuasion is not about making others agree with you on a certain idea or point. Instead, it relates to the skill of convincing other people to trust you in doing something.

So, does this apply here and how can you use this to become more persuasive with the ladies?

While this may sound surprising… instinctively, you are as clueless as your local Casanova about the power of persuasion. The only difference between you and him is that he learned how to harness its power.

Now having said that, it’s still not too late to get started.

The very first step towards building up your persuasion skills is improving your appearance. By no means is this all it takes to be persuasive, but people care as much about the messenger as they do the message.  So it’s important you look and feel good about yourself.

This involves dressing properly, taking regular showers and flossing your teeth… pretty straightforward stuff.

Next, you have to really know the message you are trying to send. Just asking her for a second date outright is not enough. You have to give her a preview of the advantages she will get if she does go with you.

Whether it’s describing the venue for your second date or the activities that you will do together, enticing her to go out with you again is just a matter of knowing what to say at the right moment. (This also means you have to actually plan your second date.)

Finally, use the right tone of voice. Don’t sound as if you are bossing her around but do speak clearly. As corny as it sounds it really helps if you practice talking in front of the mirror before you ask her for a second date. (How about learning how to give her a massage that will electrify her senses to wow her just in case you get lucky on the first date?)

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